Winter is here, is there a way to stay positive?

Winter is here, is there a way to stay positive?
mindmatters Nov 27, 2015 20:18

   Here we are, life has taken us to China. As amazing as this period of our lives can be, many times we meet challenges and quickly enough, find ourselves feeling depressed and pretty soon we start looking at the bad side of everything, the pollution, the food, the people and so on. Finally we feel that maybe it was a mistake coming to China. And winter is certainly not helping.

For all of you who feel this way, I have a small technique that can help.

Let us say that someone is feeling lonely.

Step 1

Identify the feeling and try to put the feeling into words.

So here in this example, the person would say that he/she is

feeling lonely.

Step 2

Find out what are the thoughts you are having and write them down.

Example: I don’t have any friends, I hate my job…

Step 3

Ask yourself why are you having each of those thoughts. What are the things that are so bad?

Example from step 2:

I don’t have any friends - here it’s perhaps because you want

somebody to talk to, share your stories…

I hate my job: my boss is bad to me, my colleagues are bad, I don’t

make enough money for the amount of work I do

Step 4

Now it’s time to find the seed of happiness in all the things you wrote down in Step 3. Find  3 ways to be grateful for each of the things that are going bad in your life.

Example :

I don’t have any friend but I can be grateful that

I have more time on my own, I don’t have those Saturday morning hangovers anymore…

Step 5

Stay in that feeling of gratitude for a few minutes.

Step 6

Put your attention in your heart and have a clear intention of having more happiness, laughter and peace in your life.


Take care

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your story really highlighted the real view of life in China

May 13, 2016 01:05 Report Abuse



Because banality, prepositions, and cliche make us feel better every time...What's wrong with winter? Take Vitamin D or play in the snow. Drink Vodka. Go to Thailand. But don't do this stuff...

Jan 04, 2016 09:23 Report Abuse



Going out for fresh air with great people always helps!

Jan 02, 2016 15:22 Report Abuse




Jan 05, 2016 10:30 Report Abuse