A mother posted an ad online looking to “hire a father,” for her five year old daughter this past week. She was surprised when several candidates contacted her within a few hours of posting the ad.
The girl’s mother and father spend most of their time working and spend little time with their child. The couple is happy with their careers but regret not being there for their daughter. The mother, Jie Li’e, has been a practicing psychologist for 10 years, and has seen many children grow up without spending enough time with their parents, especially their fathers.
As Jie’s husband works even more than she does, she worried that her daughter does not have enough time with a father-figure. She felt helpless, until she spoke with her husband and posted the job online.
Jie has strict requirements for her daughter’s “proxy father.” “In order to avoid misunderstanding and embarrassment, the man must be happily married and hold an undergraduate degree. Priority would go to a candidate with outstanding character and principles such as a teacher, policeman or military man. Their primary job would be to spend two hours with the child every Sunday to play with them and teach them sports. The parents can provide lunch and pay per hour.”
Jie quickly received many calls about the ad. Many men were sincerely willing to help out. It seems that many were a bit lonely, and said they were willing to help out the entire weekend. Others offered to teach the child photography, rock climbing and other skills, all for free.
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Outsourcing has come to China.
Oct 12, 2015 11:25 Report Abuse
Wanted: Random man needed to play with a little girl for two hours every week. You will be left unsupervised because parents prefer money to children. My friend Gary Glitter would like the job.
Oct 08, 2015 20:15 Report Abuse
She's busy playing with her cell phone .
Oct 08, 2015 06:43 Report Abuse
Several moral issues with this. Firstly, family. Unless you just don't care which seems to be the case here. If they're too busy to spend time with their kid, they shouldn't have one. Secondly, Strangers. Hiring some guy to watch over your little girl alone while you're away? We all know how Chinese males are prone to abuse females. Yeah I bet hundreds of guys replied instantly at this opportunity. Thirdlly, refer to Firstly and Secondly.
Oct 07, 2015 02:14 Report Abuse
When it comes to something as important as choosing who to buy flowers from, they use close friends as a referral but something like watching your daughter all alone, a random stranger would do.
Oct 08, 2015 15:41 Report Abuse
Chinese people love their children. But they just love money more. And yes this is attracting a lot of pedophiles but who cares this is China, molesting children is ok. 5000 years of culture has eroded the 'ure'.
Oct 06, 2015 16:11 Report Abuse
"...this is China, molesting children is ok." say what!?!?! You don't actually believe that, right?
Oct 07, 2015 22:59 Report Abuse
Do you know how many uncles and other close family friends molest children and nothing is done about it?
Oct 08, 2015 15:37 Report Abuse
They're that busy that they can't find TWO HOURS to play with their child on a Sunday? Wow! What sad b@@@@&@s!
Oct 05, 2015 17:01 Report Abuse
Sounds like my sister in law who spends little or no time with her daughter . She's always in her room and not with her little one .
Oct 07, 2015 02:05 Report Abuse
Does the term "stranger" meaning anything to this mom?
Oct 05, 2015 13:11 Report Abuse
Kids need good mentors. This mother recognises this need and has proactively sought out a role model.
Oct 04, 2015 22:28 Report Abuse
"The mother, Jie Li’e, has been a practicing psychologist for 10 years," Well this just about sums up mental health and its treatment in China, doesn't it?
Oct 04, 2015 10:29 Report Abuse
An advertisement like this would be like ringing the dinner bell for paedophiles in any other country. Have the parents not thought about this? Willing to teach photography? Clothes optional?
Oct 03, 2015 07:35 Report Abuse