Editor’s note: It seems that Chinese have their own opinions when it comes to dating and love; many a foreigner in China has been surprised by relationship demands made upon them by their Chinese partners who only want what any Chinese would want: a typical Chinese relationship.

As bewildering as this may prove to be, it’s much worse to make broad generalizations upon the concepts of love and relationship that Chinese have – until now. This Chinese translated story details the results of a scientific study that tries to accurately portray the current situation for unmarried people in China and to discover just what Chinese look for in a partner.

This is part 2 of a 2 part series. While Part 1 focused on national statistics and highlights the problems facing China in terms of gender disparity and people delaying marriage, Part 2 turns its head to the requirements many have for their suitors. Do Chinese women prefer older men? Is a house and car necessary components to establishing a marriage? Is it right for a woman to expect her husband to give her all his wages? After all, percentages don’t lie!

Source: Instant Vantage

Men and women in their twenties are cautious about sexual activity

Many people think that people are becoming increasingly open, but the study points to the opposite being true. The study states that men and women born in the 1970s are more open towards “kissing” and “sexual activity” than their counterparts born in the 1980s and 1990s. Once they are confident, men and women born in the nineties will quickly take to “holding hands”, “hugging” and other activity associated with relationships, but will still demonstrate caution in regards to sexual behavior. 

The outcome of the study has shown that the average rate of consummating a relationship through sexual activity for men born in the 1979s, 1980s and 1990s is 12, 13 and 13 days respectively after the first date. For women born in those same decades the length of time becomes 19, 23, 24 days respectively.

70% of women aged 18-25 like successful older men

A Korean drama has popularized the attraction for the “older uncle”, and it seems Chinese women have followed suit. The study shows that 70% of women aged 18-25 have an “older uncle” complex. These women prefer men who are 10 years older than themselves.

Of these women, 64% hope to start a romantic relationship with one of these “older uncles”, while only 17% of these women have actually had experience in a relationship with one. These women say they like older men because they are mature, know how to take care of someone, are stable and charming, and have a strong economic foundation. According to the report women who were attracted to “older uncles” had three main concerns about them: their parents would not accept him, the “older uncle” already has a family, and that there is no way to control an older man.

Lowest requirement for men born in the 1990s is 5,000 RMB

The lowest requirements of monthly salary of ideal men for women born in the 1970s, 1980s and 1990s is 7000 RMB, 6000 RMB and 5000 RMB, respectively. Highlighting that for each successive decade of age, women will add an extra 1000 RMB towards the basic salary requirements of their partners; as well, the highest expectation they have (or can be called their ideal value) has increased by 5000 RMB.

Men born in the 1990s have lower academic expectations of their female counterparts, while men born in the 1970s and 1980s have the ideal salary of 10,000 RMB in mind when considering their prospective mates.

Only 14% of men are voluntarily willing to hand over their wages

Regarding the issue of whether or not to hand over all their wages, only 14% of men are voluntarily willing to hand over their wages to their partners; 37% of men would hand over this money if requested by the woman. Of these men willing to hand over their bank cards, 62% hope to do this at the same time they plan on getting married, which is approximately 11 months into their relationship. Upon knowing each other for a total of 12 months, 91% of men said they were willing to hand over their wages to their partner.

An inverse ratio has appeared between the men willing to hand over their wages and with people’s ages; that is to say: the older the man with the higher wages, the more unwilling he will be towards handing over his salary to his partner. Upon attaining a salary of over 5,000 RMB, over 50% of men say they will “definitely not hand over their salary”; and yet a man with a “salary of 5,000 RMB and up” is exactly the ideal man that Chinese women are looking for.

Who won’t marry without owning a house?

Sixty-six percent of men believe that ownership of a car and house are not necessary condition to a marriage. However, 52% of women believe that owning a house is a necessary prerequisite to getting married. Five percent of men and 11% of women believe that a house and car are integral commodities to own before getting married. As the ages of women get older, they increasingly don’t think that car and house ownership is important or consider that owning a house is a necessary prerequisite.

As the age increases, so too is the likelihood of body figures getting large

The study also states that “fatties” everywhere have a hard time trying to resolve their situations. As men get older, the body figures of their ideal partner will also according become more “full”. However, women with a body weight of over 60 kg are surely to face difficulties.

At the same time, as women get older, the figures of their ideal male partner will also correspondingly become “fuller”; but men with a weight exceeding 80 kg will definitely be confronted with certain hardship.

Source:iFeng

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