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Honestly I dont get the hype with Chinese women, most of them(from what I have been told by guys who've been going out with Chinese girls) are prude, boring in the sack, have a pan cake ass and a flat chest but expect you to be their lord and savior financially. Whenever anyone goes out with a Chinese chick and comes out disappointed I think, what did you expect? Leave the Chinese to the Chinese, they understand each other's ways..but seriously, if you're not just looking for sex why on earth would you wanna spend your entire life with one? Have you seen how age? (thats just my opinion, you don't have to like it)
May 31, 2013 11:04 Report Abuse
Sexiest of all human race????? OK, if you still have yellow fever you obviously haven't seen these girls eat. They spit on the floor, burp and throw the rubbish on the table or floor like tramps. No dignity what so ever. Chinese girls are beautiful and not all are the same but please be realistic all cultures have their differences. Someone before made a great point, leave the Chinese to the Chinese.
Jun 10, 2014 20:42 Report Abuse
"driven by financial circumstance " some of the time"?? Please. Most of the time. While there exist real and lasting relationships, most of the local women are taking advantage of foreign guys' fascination with Asian women, and milking it for whatever they can get.
May 26, 2013 12:24 Report Abuse
No Westerner should consider marrying a Chinese bride unless they are fully prepared to understand the value of money in their marriage. It is EVERYTHING and it will become his business the moment money is in danger. Let me simplify: Money is her only value as a human being. So if you earn 30% less this year - she will humiliate you by 30%. 30% less sexual attention. She will shame you in public 30% more. She will reduce your value as a human being by 30% for that year. Remember - you have to earn 30% more ABOVE your previous levels to get back to your level of respect again. Keep in mind - you have to be increasing your money and savings each year too! And if you ever went 'bankrupt' or into debt you should know YOU will become a worthless human being and given that measure of DISrespect. Possibly she can cheat on you with your best friend or something that makes you 'less than nothing' as far as your 'face'. After all - that is what you did to her. And remember it has to be made 'balanced' right. So its better you know this now. There are almost zero exceptions among Mainland Chinese women. If you think you have an exception it's actually an 'act' and the truth will be revealed soon. Add to this psychotic jealousy and a general disrespect for husbands at the best of times. Add to this your culture is not important and is actually less than Chinese culture.
May 16, 2013 06:19 Report Abuse
Yes all women are like that. It is a matter of degree. Most women are a 6. You married a 10. She is trying to keep herself to an 8 but she WILL get to a 10 soon. You are not 'free-spirited' but rather she has money as the PRIMARY concern. Above you or anything else. You just don't know it yet.
Jun 03, 2013 16:12 Report Abuse
There's a lot of human garbage not worth your time in every country, including China, and thus obviously including Chinese women. However, if you have anything resembling a moral compass and a decent IQ, you will be able to find many good ones over time, where ever you are. I pity da fools who, whether through a spate of recent bad luck, through bad genes, or through bad / unlucky upbringing, have only managed to find garbage.
Oct 06, 2012 06:39 Report Abuse
This article is useful, I'm quite agree with bigbadbully same i will not be so extreme as him. However, he's right about chinese women. many are in that way but it exists also good person who don't follow that way just it's not very easy to find. a big % of chinese women (the one live in cities) are materialistic and superficial.
After 6 years in china in different cities and also travelled in 70%of China it's easy to be disapointed by chinese human being and women.
I think the foreigners can match chinese women for long relationship (i mean for maybe 20 or 30 years at least) must have stability, good job with high salary and not too open person or at least someone don't care about big values such as ecology, human right, democracy, social right etc.
Oct 02, 2012 20:58 Report Abuse
Lol i think there r a lot of chinese girls in this conversation and they all UNlike bad things abit them. of course there are exceptionas. but listen... if there are so many people talking about chinese women are so material ( majority) yeah totally all aroud me foreigners and people who lived here for ages are saying the same things, you can just not deny it!! These things are here. and as the things that cinese people are so dirty and without manners is here also! I mean not all of them of course, but its just in your culture... its not your fault..its just fault of your history and government. and wonder why all foreigners just wanna earn money here but not staying...
Oct 01, 2012 21:36 Report Abuse
It amazes me how upset everyone gets about this. People are always assuming there is some evil motive behind western men dating Chinese women. They think that all us western men objectify and stereotype Chinese women and only date them because we can't get women in our native countries. They assume that Chinese women are only attracted to western men for their money. What a load of crap.
To complain about westerners dating Chinese women while we live in China is absurd. Who the hell else are we going to date? Are we supposed to just be celibate? No thank you. I have no fetish to date Chinese women, nor do I have "yellow fever". These are made up terms by ignorant people. Most men just want to date attractive women regardless of race. I'm sure it can be frustrating to Chinese men that us white guys have an advantage, but it's no reason to be angry, bitter and act like a victim.
I'm a 30 year old, short, thin, fairly average looking white man. But I have dated almost every race. Dating comes easy for me in my native country. I do prefer a certain look (short, petite, nice skin) and Chinese women seem to fit that type more often than other races. Simply put - I just like feminine women and Chinese girls are very good at being feminine. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
To the western men complaining about Chinese women being gold diggers - look, you just suck with women. If the only value you have is money then that's the only reason women will ever like you. If you don't act like a man, women will always walk all over you. Learn how to be cooler. Learn how to be fun and how to flirt. My value is mostly from being charming, confident, and funny. I don't ever go around spending money on women.
Everyone here please stop being so butt hurt and racist and just take control of your dating life instead of blaming everyone else.
Sep 28, 2012 18:56 Report Abuse
It's easy to find a girl friend for foreign people right ?
You guys go to Bars where most of girls are here for fun and more (that doesn't actually include love in most of the time). So you find a girlfriend who often goes to bar, what do you expect from her ?
It's the same in Western countries, when you go to bars, to meet guys and girls, they just want to have fun, not to find love. But hey ! We are all human, if a good occasion points out for free we might take it. Of course you can also meet some nice people in bars or nightclubs ... Just saying
Wanna find a real girlfriend ? Don't look for them in bars and nightclubs ...
Why don't you try a colleague or friend's colleague .. People are the same everywhere ... Stop thinking about the difference because they are all the same everywhere ... See ? We have the same difference, that's what make us (asian, caucasian, african) identical. And please author from this article don't speak about RACE : (quote) "relationships of many different race combinations". Asian, Caucasian, African, Arab we might be different but also the same and still we are all from the human race.
Aug 16, 2012 18:07 Report Abuse
my argument is......................are those gilrs working in the bars lesser human beings or immoral or what? Judging people by what they do is also wrong.
Do you have any idea of the number of bars, pubs and ktv's in china?
Are you saying all those girls working there are the worst of human beings?
What about the people who go there for entertainment............rich,middle class, poor, dignitaries including Bo Xilai, college students, families,etc?
Not everyone goes to bar for fun!! And don't think of yourself as a better person cos you don't use the bar.................there are other things u do that many people don't revel in?
Sep 29, 2012 15:23 Report Abuse
I totally disagree with the main writer. Must be having psychological problems or he was brainwashed and fed negative stereotypes about china...i am neither chinese nor european or american..i am south asian..i have a chinese girlfriend and compare to China my country is poor, rumble in chaos but still my girlfriend who is having very good job in China is even ready to go to my country if i am not willing to stay....Open your eyes and just don't pick up the girls somewhere from bars or pubs and blame all either chinese or western...
Apr 23, 2012 05:34 Report Abuse
Interesting read, lots of generalizations and underlying prejudice. I am married to a wonderful Chinese lady. We are both in our fourties and have been together now for several years. She is sweet and caring, family comes first and she puts her children and husband before material things.
That being said, there are very real cultural differences. These differences can lead to misunderstandings,hurt feelings and tension in the relationship. It may be a broad generalization, but yes she is much more emotional then your typical western lady. She can be hot headed, she will react first and expect you to be the man and calm her down. She has a very traditional view of family and family roles, which can be an adjustment for your average western guy. A big change for me anyway is her views on the importance of how the community sees her and how she sees herself. She weighs very heavily opinions of friends and associates, more so then even her own views. Something very foreign to me, as a western guy I give associates and friends opinions importance, but they are not nearly as of paramount importance as wife gives them.
I think the reality here is if you fall in love with someone, and she or he happens to be from a different culture, you will both have adjustments to make and some of these adjustments will mot be easy.
Jan 19, 2012 10:07 Report Abuse
My Chinese wife and I met on the net. I live in "the bush' in Australia, so thank God for the net. In my area the chances of meeting a woman at my age  are minimal . I am well educated, well travelled and love China and my wife. If other people have stereotypes that's their problem.
Jan 10, 2012 16:56 Report Abuse