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"The woman was thrilled, but quickly realized that she had forgotten her wallet." Unless she has Alzheimer's, "forgetting" a wallet is a red flag. "They broke up fairly soon after the incident." In other words, he dodged a bullet. The author (and the girls in these stories) takes the view that men are nothing more than exploitable sources of income. They see men the same way a farmer views a draft horse, only in terms of generating wealth.
Feb 01, 2014 01:17 Report Abuse
This article is ducking ridiculous. It really shows up the immaturity and narcissistic behaviour of Chinese women. These are just shallow and poor examples too.... and I've seen Chinese people call ALL foreign women psychologically immature in comparison with the Chinese. But that is what it is, different values. From my conversations with all non-Chinese people we we all seem to agree with the same points on Chinese people. The Chinese are unique in their values, For me a more appealing talking point would be to analyse the differences between what is meant by English 'love' and Chinese 爱, English 'care' and Chinese 照顾, to miss and to 想. They are translated but do they really convey the full meaning? it is words like these and the understandings of them that have caused more problems for me than these examples that give insight into an irrational way of thinking inherent in these Chinese individuals.ducking shoes, all American men can't handle spicy food too. I get your point is not really this simple but it's still stupid. The fact it focuses on Chinese women and American men is even problematic to me, it seems the point is missed.
Feb 01, 2014 00:02 Report Abuse
I'm guessing there just aren't a whole lot of gay/lesbian couples open in China (it kinda has a problem with homophobia, just so's you know). Unless there is a policy on this site that excludes gays/lesbians, they're probably waiting for someone to come forward.
Feb 02, 2014 00:26 Report Abuse
Hi Ried. As Mateusz suggested, the number of articles is proportionate to the number of relationships available for dissection. In the few years that I've been in China, I've met hundreds of Western men in relationships with Chinese women, a handful of Western women in relationships with Chinese men, and no one in an inter-cultural gay relationship. If you want more gay/lesbian articles, write one. There are tens of millions of gay men in China waiting to be freed from the bonds of tradition and prejudice. Waiting for a strong, handsome man with beautiful white skin. So I guess it's up to you to do the field work, and then report on it.
Feb 02, 2014 20:47 Report Abuse
I see out girls often together in Chengdu, I would say that actually homosexuality would be less obvious in public, because sexual affections are usually kept private here. Regardless of gender. If Reid is looking specifically to read articles on gay relationships, maybe try typing in "gay relationship china" into google? just for you I did so and found articles from the BBC among others. BBC News - Being gay in China: Your stories www.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/asia-pacific/8478911.stm BBC Or, as Samsara suggested, try dating some guys and write your own stories, or just try dating men to save time procrastinating on the internet. If you need to whinge about something, please try to be interesting or original. Complaining that there are no articles written about what you want to read, published when you want to read it, and left on the one site that you seem capable of reading from is a bit pointless.
May 22, 2014 13:46 Report Abuse
Funny... It's like all the stories were written from MY perspective. 1. Woman has public tantrum about shoes. 2. There is no wildlife in China because Chinese people ate it. 3. Woman has tantrum because she wants the man's money because isn't that what relationships are for? Thanks for the critical self-analysis, China. It's a rare thing.
Jan 31, 2014 16:29 Report Abuse
chinese men are overly jealous of foreign males, so please foreign males, streak a little more to make them even more insecure. Chinese girls, please note that in china's society, men are expected to go to whores (with their friends or business partners), however in western society, it is unthinkable.
Feb 27, 2014 08:33 Report Abuse
It is evident the problem (I mean first story) is not of China-American couples, it is a universal problem. The traditional balance of rights and duties between a husband and a wife is destroied. Present women want to receive gifts and protection, favours from a man (as if a vassal from his senior), and at the same time she feels herself free and independent (when a senior wants her to serve him). Modern society failed to create a correct balance in the sex relations. In the first story a woman had understood a man is not going to marry her, and doesnt view her as his wife.
Jan 31, 2014 14:55 Report Abuse
This doesn't apply to Americans or westerners only. I'm an overseas Chinese and even I have issues with local Chinese girls. It's mostly how their brains are hard wired. If you are an item, she expects that everything will be taken care of, right down to the needs of her family. Yes, that means if her brother wants to start a business, you are expected to chip in towards the start up capital. I've been through all that and frankly, I find it very awkward. Perhaps that why we always say they are materialistic. I think it's just different expectations.
Jan 31, 2014 00:33 Report Abuse