Boyfriend’s Mother Mistakes Hickeys for Physical Abuse, Forces Couple Apart

Boyfriend’s Mother Mistakes Hickeys for Physical Abuse, Forces Couple Apart
Jul 08, 2016 Translated by

Editor’s Note: What is more important: staying with your girlfriend or keeping your conservative parents happy? A young Chongqing man had to face this question after his old-fashioned mother thought that the hickeys on his neck were bruises from his girlfriend. This mistake left the couple in a tricky situation. Should they stay together and disappoint his family, or break up to make his mother happy?

A young Chongqing woman was kicked out of her boyfriend’s apartment for three days after her boyfriend’s mom suspected that she had physically abused him. In reality, she had only given him a few hickeys, but found it difficult to tell her boyfriend’s conservative mother the truth.


Lu Li was interviewed yesterday by a reporter at the Starbucks in Chongqing’s Times Paradise Walk C Hall. She is a 26-year-old salesperson at a telecommunications company. She and her boyfriend Yuan Liang had been dating for three months. He works as a taxi driver. Lu Li often stayed over at Yuan Ling’s rental apartment.

A Surprise Visit

Yuan Liang’s parents live on a farm in Shizhu County in southeastern Chongqing. Because his parents are very conservative, Lu Li and Yuan Ling tried to hide the fact that she basically lived at his apartment. “In my mother’s eyes, only married people should live together, and only incident girls live with someone they are dating or just in love with.”   

On July 1, Yuan Liang’s mother, Mrs. Sun unexpectedly showed up at her son’s rental apartment. Lu Li was there and had planned to spend the night. When Mrs. Sun walked in, Lu Li quickly explained that she had just come over to help Yuan Ling cook. Mrs. Sun bought their story and greeted Lu Li warmly. However, when Yuan Ling took his sweater off, his mother yelped at the bruises on his neck.  

What Are Those Bruises?

Yuan Ling had multiple hickeys from his girlfriend on his neck. He was embarrassed. However, Mrs. Sun did not know what the bruises were and believed that Lu Li had been beating her son. Mrs. Sun told Lu Li to leave the apartment. Not wanting to blow Yuan Ling’s cover, Lu Li did not argue with her. Mrs. Sun carefully examined her son’s neck and found more red marks on both his neck and shoulders. Mrs. Sun angrily cursed Lu Li and Lu Li started to cry. Mrs. Sun was not moved and forcefully pushed her son’s girlfriend out of the apartment.

Yuan Ling said that his mother stayed in the city for two days. She believed that Lu Li had been abusing her son and was worried that if they eventually got married, her son would have a difficult life. She stayed to watch her son and make sure he completely cut off contact with Lu Li.

Forced To End It?

Yuan Ling dared not tell his mother the truth, but tried to find ways to defend Lu Li. He said that his girlfriend did not cause the marks, but Mrs. Sun did not believe him. Yuan Ling then claimed that the bruises were just caused by play fighting. Mrs. Sun remarked that his girlfriend was extremely vicious to leave marks like that.

Lu Li has not seen Yuan Liang for three days, but has kept in touch through WeChat. The two do not know what to do about Mrs. Sun.

Lu Li said that if they tell Mrs. Sun the truth, then she will judge them for their behavior. But if they do not tell her the truth, Mrs. Sun will try to keep them apart and never accept Lu Li.

Lu Li’s friend Feng Yao said that no one can figure out how to deal with the misunderstanding, and that Lu Li and Yuan Liang may be forced to end their relationship over it.

Source: QQ News

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Good mother. **thumbs up** She did the right thing. A girlfriend should never be allowed to his her boyfriend, no matter the reason. As for the young couple, how in h*ll they don't dare to tell the mother about the hickeys, but then go tell it on a nationally broadcasted interview? That's just idiotic.

Jul 14, 2016 17:21 Report Abuse



How on earth is this news? Worthy of a reporter actually interviewing these people? I guess when you can't report the truth about anything, this will have to do.

Jul 09, 2016 11:37 Report Abuse



did the mother see all the hickeys...

Jul 09, 2016 07:25 Report Abuse



The girl should kiss the mother goodbye on her neck. YES!

Jul 08, 2016 16:21 Report Abuse



How about the man growing a pair of balls and telling his mother what they are and that he is the one who decides who will live in his home. Of course this will not happen because in China everyone is a child until their parents die. They then continue the circle of abuse and control with their children.

Jul 08, 2016 11:13 Report Abuse



Mostly because his GF's legs and body is more masculine than him. So many guys I see I think they are girls until I look up and see its a guy.

Jul 08, 2016 21:41 Report Abuse



Hahaha, funny.....though it's very common.

Jul 08, 2016 11:08 Report Abuse



To mother: welcome to the 21st century, where sex b4 marriage is now the norm.

Jul 08, 2016 10:36 Report Abuse



Don't you mean the 20th, maybe even the 19th.

Jul 09, 2016 11:35 Report Abuse



The 21st century is the current century of the Anno Domini era or the Common Era, in accordance with the Gregorian calendar. It began on January 1, 2001, and will end on December 31, 2100. (google) You can ask other. Hope you learned something

Jul 09, 2016 15:56 Report Abuse